Friday, November 13, 2015

Small steps!

The twins were talking to my brother on face time and telling him about their weekend a few nights ago. Aashna told him "I went to jumpy park, I met my friend Gracie there and I told friends I was just born that way!"

Ok let me translate her story and this is what happened. We took the twins to the trampoline park on Saturday and for a change Amit and I decided to sit down on a bench close by and let the girls go and play instead of hovering around them the entire time. I was a first for us but we just wanted to watch them and see how they did with others when we were not there to come to the rescue every time. To be fair to Aari and Aashi attract a LOT of attention when we are out and around strangers. In just minutes there were about 5-6 kids around them. This is how it happens:

See a kid with one arm - curiosity ++
See her twin - curiosity ++++
Notice she also has a baby arm - curiosity +++++++++ explosion!

I have been talking to them about how to handle questions at home and we play it out. I ask them what do you say when someone asks what happened to your arm and both of them in sync reply "I was just born that way!". Thats as far as we have gotten the follow up questions are harder. Kids are naturally curious and we have always encouraged questions.

Coming back to the park, the kids quickly surrounded them and started asking questions and both Aari and Aashi showed them their baby arms. After a little while Aariya had enough and ran over to us and the kids followed. They had more questions like "does it hurt them?", "can they hold things with their little arm?", "will their hands grow back?" and my favorite "can I buy them another hand?".

After we answered all the questions the kids went back to playing and it was done! Amit and I looked at each, proud of ourselves for not running to tackle the questions for Aari and Aashi and even more proud of the twins - they handled themselves so well that day. We have noticed they do better with little girls may be because they are more gentle with their baby hands. Later at the foam pit Aariya was tempted to jump in but needed some time and support. One of the little kids from earlier came and offered to hold her hand and jump in with her. It was the sweetest thing!

I really hope the twins continue to come across sweet gentle kids - it makes it so much easier for them. Lord knows mumma bear is always ready to save her little cubs! Amit has to keep reminding me to back off and let them handle some situations on their own. But how do you not hover over your kids?? We were at the play area at a mall the day before and I saw so many parents just sitting around not actively watching their kids - no judgement from me! I sometimes wonder if I will ever be that parent, trust me I want to be! Not always living in fear of what may happen or who is around them. But I am not sure its possible when you have two little GIRLS and with a limb difference. I feel like I am always on guard with them - my precious babies who are growing up to quickly!

So anyway we are all making progress - one small step at a time!!

Sunday, November 1, 2015

What did I smile about in October!

Lets kick of the festive season - October is such a fun month with a transition to fall and getting ready for Halloween. We had another busy month with lots of celebrations and soaking in some warm weather before it gets really cold. Hope you all had a safe and fun Halloween with lots of sweets and scares.

Mila and Deven's Birthday party - Thanks for letting us be a part of your second milestone. I managed to get a picture of all four of them together. The western theme called for some western boots that the girls love to show off now.
First family Movie night - Aariya and Aashna enjoyed this first full movie with Saachi at their school movie night. They were excited about sitting on the lawn with popcorn and lollipops - who wouldn't enjoy that!
Pumpkin Village Arboretum - One of my favorite places in Dallas. We love their pumpkin village set up and the girls had fun running around with Chin Chin. We will be going back again I am sure before the pumpkins are gone.
Arijit Singh - To be honest I didn't even know who he was until Amit made me hear a few of his songs, which I love. In true Indian fashion this concert started two hours late due to some testing issues so I was really ticked off but he redeemed himself. His voice is amazing and he really made up for the delay. Too bad we had to leave early but would love to see him again in concert some day.
Navratri - The girls were so excited to go do garba. These three munchkins are such diva's and even though they don't know how to do it, they just enjoyed walking around in circles and people watching.
Barbara's bachelorette party - Fun times with some fun ladies to celebrate Barbara! Some censored photos for you to enjoy ha!
Baby Zara - I had to go hold little Zara even if it was for just 30 minutes. Cant wait to see her again with the twins. Welcome to this crazy world little one.
Fall festival at school - The girls got to dress up twice for Halloween. They were so excited to get their faces painted for the first time ever. They had fun running around the different rooms and collecting candy. Too bad the weather was bad and this event had to be moved indoors - still a lot of fun for the girls.
Pumpkin party - This was our first time carving pumpkins! The girls had so much fun playing with glitter and of course we had to use gold and purple. The boys did good with the carving and we also drilled one this year thanks to idea's from pinterest.
Halloween - And finally the actual day. The girls enjoyed trick or treating so much, who wouldn't with all that candy they got. They actually walked up to the doors and said Happy Halloween! There was some scary stuff that made them cry - so funny!